Methods of making desired emotional, social and family relationship

In the name of God.
Hello
I want to discuss relationships, a beautiful emotional relationship, a pleasant family relationship and a desirable social relationship.
We have two types of relationships.
First: Relationships that determine our social position, which people we deal with and what level of society we live in. And the second type we have what determines the beauty of our relationship with others, how do we feel with others, is our relationship with our father, mother, family or spouse and children beautiful or not, is our relationship with the people we deal with in the society enjoyable or not, and those who are related to us, are we enjoying talking with them or not, and what I mean by this conversation is how to create a beautiful relationship with the people around us. Now we live in every level of society.
We want to know how we can have a beautiful relationship with those around us, our spouse, our children, parents, siblings, relatives or those we meet in the society, and make them love us from the bottom of their hearts and love us romantically. And what solution can we have to make others fall in love with us?

Methods of creating the ideal relationship

The first step to create good relationships with the people around us is to refer to our thoughts about ourselves, that is, we must focus on ourselves to see if we love ourselves or not, if the moment we see ourselves in the mirror We like it or we don't like it.
There are many people who can't bear to see themselves, that is, the moment they look in the mirror, they start talking bad about themselves and they don't have a good inner feeling about themselves. Naturally such person would not have good relationship with others.
You know how sometimes you see someone and you like them unconsciously, for example, you see a person for the first time and you just like them for no reason, and the only reason is that that person loves himself, and his appearance also arouses the feelings of others towards that person.
If you don't feel good about yourself, I will tell you an exercise to love yourself and love yourself, which I will explain later.

The outcome of feeling guilt

The next thing that is very important is the feeling of guilt and it sends a destructive frequency to the world. The person who considers themselves a sinner because of the feeling of guilt he has towards themselves, knows that they have gone away from the door of God, he always blames himself, he always says that I am a slave. I am a sinner before God
They have these inappropriate feelings towards themselves, again, the world puts a trend in this person's life that people in the society do not like this person and feel bad towards this person, that is, they unconsciously feel bad towards this person. And the reason is obvious. It is the feeling of being disappointed from the blessing of God.

Outcome of attachment

The third issue that we need to examine is the feeling of attachment on others. You should see that you feel attached to the people you have a relationship with, or you consider yourself free. Without being attached to anyone for any reason, your inner feeling towards yourself becomes lighter and the feeling that are “oh I need that person and if they are not there, I will disappear, I will die, the world has no value without them and etc.” will disappear. Most of all, these are statements that make a person move away from his true self. It is interesting that whoever you depend on will feel worse towards you, that is, the more you consider yourself to be dependent on someone, even if you always express interest and say, "If I lose you, I will die." And you are the best person I have in this world will result on that person to slowly build a feeling of dislike and eventually hate towards you. And the reason is simple. Humans are made to be free and no one likes being limited and by limiting a person you see that person will leave you. So, never have the feeling of attachment to someone. Just thank the God as they are another blessing in your life.
So, we have raised three issues so far
First: Is your inner feeling good or bad about yourself?
Second: Do you feel guilty about yourself?
Third: Do you feel attached to the people you live with or not?
Now we go to the exercises that we have to do

Self-esteem

The first exercise, which is very simple but very important exercise, write down your physical beauty, take a beautiful notebook, write down the beauty you see in yourself, and thank God and say thank you for the blessings you have given me. Because of my eyes, my hair, the beautiful body you gave me and all the beauty you see in your appearance, maybe someone will say that I am fat when many people wish to be fat and someone who is thin will say why should I be thin but many They wish to be thin, so love yourself the way you are and enjoy what you have. I want to tell you that there are so many people who wish to have whatever features you have.
You should also be grateful for your inner beauty. If you say that you have good morals, thank God that I have good morals. If you speak well, paint well, and walk well, that means the least blessing is the best blessing you have and you should be thankful for it. Thank God and you will raise your confidence and self-esteem and know that every exercise you do should be with a good inner feeling, that is, a pleasant feeling, the feeling that this blessing is the best thing that I have, that good inner feeling is the most important one.
Writing this content is very effective if you do not like writing than it is going to be a bit difficult for you
You know how I mentioned you should stay in front if mirror and say you best features loudly?
Example :
I love you, how good you are, how beautiful you are, how handsome you are and.....
The same beauties that I said to write, say them to yourself in front of the mirror and praise yourself, and you will enjoy hearing your own voice, you enjoy looking into your own eyes, maybe at first your mind resists, break the resistance and turn this whisper in your mind off that doesn't allow you to do this exercise, so that you can do the exercise with a good feeling and express your beauty, the exercises that I tell you should be done consecutively for at least twenty one days and after a while you will see that a moment When you see yourself in the mirror or even pass by the shop and see yourself on the shop window, you enjoy seeing yourself, it means that you have done your exercises correctly and I congratulate you for it.

Freedom from guilt

The next exercise is about the feeling of guilt: if you see that you have a heavy feeling of guilt, you feel pushed away from God, you should know that God will forgive any sin you have except disbelief, that is, you should only serve God and do not associate with God and your life Move forward by relying on God, God will forgive all the sins you have committed.
God says: (The Book of the Qur'an, Surah Zumar, verse 53) Say, O my servants, who have wronged your rights, do not despair of God's mercy, indeed, God will forgive all your sins, for God is Forgiving and Merciful.
Forgiving and Merciful means someone who forgives sins and doesn't let anyone notice the sins you have committed and gives you whatever you want. It is interesting here that the better your heart relationship with God is, the less wrong you will do. It can get to the point where you don't commit even the smallest sin because God is in your heart every moment and God will not allow you to be guided to a path where you commit sin, feel free to talk to your God.
Establish heart connection and remove any feeling of guilt from your heart, because any feeling that keeps you away from getting close to God is the voice evil, that is, throw away every negative thought that makes you disappointed in God's mercy. God is more compassionate than we think, feel free to talk to him and ask him for help, he loved you when he created you, he loves you for talking to him, and God loves you for reading these things now...
On the other hand, he says that ask for me to give. Ask is an imperative verb, it means that God has ordered you to ask me to fulfill your wishes, now the key is that the stronger your heart's relationship with God is, the more God will make people love you. Even more than you can think. As imam Ali says to his son Imam Hassan in Nahj’al Balagha : Never get disappointed from God’s mercy because God’s mercy is as big as your belief.
Long story short these three exercises that I mentioned are the most essential and important things to decide our relationship with others. Topic of relationship is very vast but I will explain them in more ways in our future classes. How to strengthen our relationship with our parents, spouse, friends, children and every other person we care for. Hopefully than we learn how to reach the ideal relationship we desire.
I hope you will read this material many times and do the exercises I tell you carefully and they help you reach happiness and prosperity in your life.
Your happiness is my heart's desire...
In the end, I wish you happiness, health and well-being, and I ask the best for you from the merciful God, may God protect you...
Habib Kheiri